A question about Christian fellowship?
February 282010
Is it wrong for a Christian to just want to be by themselves? I don’t really feel that comfortable socializing especially with people I don’t know. I like doing my own thing. When I’m with others I have a hard time getting to know them and just being relaxed. I’ve always been like this, and fellowship with other Christians is hard for me.
There is a huge age gap in my church. Everyone is either too old, too young, or they are married and have families. I’m 32 and single, and I feel like the black sheep. I’ve attended the youth group at my church a few times, but I feel awkward around a room full of teens, although it’s better than being with most of the adults..
Can I still just go, enjoy the service, be a good Christian without having to socialize? I rarely even go out with family or friends..so it’s nothing against them…I’m just a private person. Should I feel bad about this? …Because I kind of do!
Lol, you sound exactly like me! Which is why I do most of my ministering through the gifts God has given me and I pray for people and I minister on the internet. Being anti-social.. is..well.. Let me put it this way. We are to minister to others to spread the word of the Lord and if you are anti social or shy or afraid to talk to someone about the Lord then you’re not doing your job as a Christian and anything that stops you from doing your job as a Christian is only the devil! I say only because our God is so much greater than satan which is why I don’t capitalize satan’s name at all. However satan is much more powerful than me or any of us alone but when we stand with God we can as it says in the bible “Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen." – Matthew 21:21
March 1st, 2010 at 1:32 am
fellowship is important in some form..the bible shows us this.
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March 1st, 2010 at 1:51 am
it is okay to want to be alone sometimes. Read Hebrews 10:25. It says to help each other, so we obviously need to encourage one another. I understand your situation but you are putting ideas in your head and thus separating from the rest. You need to be open and not afraid, Jesus liked people. Just stop and think, what would Jesus do? Remember He is our example to follow not men. And sometimes we develop wrong desires not let them overwhelm you. Fight back to be who God wants u to be.
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March 1st, 2010 at 2:26 am
You shouldn’t feel bad. You don’t need a group of people to surround you but you could use a mentor/friend to meet with once a week, have coffee and do a study together. That is fellowship and it is healthy. It keeps you accountable in your walk with God and you have someone to confide in and pray with and for you.
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March 1st, 2010 at 2:45 am
I understand. I am basically the same way, and have a hard time finding the desire within to fellowship. However, God has been good to put a few people in my life where their is accountability, but no pressure to be a source of entertainment. It can be as simple as a couple phone calls a week and some emails. I think it is biblical for us to "not forsake the assembling of ourselves"…and not just by going to church, but by being involved. We know this is a spiritual battle, and no soldier gets too far alone.
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March 1st, 2010 at 3:22 am
I do not think you should feel bad about it, but you might consider attending a social for young adults at a happening church. We are supposed to let our light shine. God bless.
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March 1st, 2010 at 3:58 am
No.
Go to worship service.
Enjoy God.
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March 1st, 2010 at 4:42 am
You don’t have to be sociable to be accepted into the Kingdom. All God asks is that we love Him and obey His commandments. It’s great if you have friends to help you along with your Christian life, but it’s not a requirement.
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March 1st, 2010 at 4:54 am
Fellowship with other Christians but I understand how you feel. When I was a teenager I was the only person over 10 and under 20 in the church I felt very much alone I couldn’t relate to either the adults or the children.
Then when I was 18 I found a youth group but there was only one person in the group my age the others were 3-5 years younger than me. I kept going o the group for 5 years even though It was a bit awkard.
Now I go to a church full of older couples and couples with small children I am yet to find singles in my age range that I can relate to.
Even though it would be better to socialize with Christians my own age I still try to make connections with people in the church. It is important to have connections with other Christians becasue they can help you and you them. The Bible itself says that two are better than one because when one falls the other can pick him up.
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March 1st, 2010 at 5:21 am
Lol, you sound exactly like me! Which is why I do most of my ministering through the gifts God has given me and I pray for people and I minister on the internet. Being anti-social.. is..well.. Let me put it this way. We are to minister to others to spread the word of the Lord and if you are anti social or shy or afraid to talk to someone about the Lord then you’re not doing your job as a Christian and anything that stops you from doing your job as a Christian is only the devil! I say only because our God is so much greater than satan which is why I don’t capitalize satan’s name at all. However satan is much more powerful than me or any of us alone but when we stand with God we can as it says in the bible “Truly, I say to you, if you have faith and do not doubt, you will not only do what has been done to the fig tree, but even if you say to this mountain, ‘Be taken up and thrown into the sea,’ it will happen." – Matthew 21:21
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